Online Dating Tips: Dos and Don’ts of Dating Online
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Although it was once thought to be a creepy or geeky way to meet people, online dating is now seen as an acceptable way to find love. These days online dating is as common a way to meet a potential partner as a blind date or meeting someone by chance in a club or bar. Despite this if you are new to online dating it can seem a little daunting and maybe even a complete mystery. Here are some do’s and don’ts to remember when embarking on what can be an exciting and different way to look for love.
Do take some time to get your profile right. If you make your profile the best it can be and ensure that it reflects your personality accurately then you are more likely to attract the kind of potential partners that you want.
Do have a look at other people’s profiles to see what people of a similar age as you are saying about themselves.
Do keep your profile light and chatty – while it should be a true reflection of your personality and interests you don’t need to go into too much detail, it’s just meant to be a taster which will make someone want to get to know more about you.
Do use an up to date photograph on your profile which is clear and shows you in a positive light.
Do run a spell checker over your personal profile to make sure there are no misspelt words before you upload it onto the website.
Don’t lie on your profile, it may get you more attention but you will be found out in the end.
Don’t use old photographs, the same as lying on your profile you will get found out eventually and could end up losing someone that you really like.
Don’t give away any personal information on your profile i.e. your income or address, save personal details until you have met someone and know you can trust them.
Do make sure you meet someone for the first time in a public place where there’s plenty of people about and tell someone where you are going.
Do try to be on time, most people are a little nervous on a first meeting so if you’re date is more than 5 minutes late it can get the date off on the wrong foot.
Do try to look your best, without going over the top. Clean and smart/casual is probably a good guideline, it’s very flattering to know someone has made an effort to look nice for you.
Do have good manners and be considerate, if you are going to be late call and apologise. If you want to change the date give plenty of notice and ask if the other person minds. Saying please and thank you never goes out of fashion.
Do offer to share the bill, even if someone has no intention of letting you pay it will be appreciated.
Don’t go for a meal on a first date. Some people don’t like eating in front of strangers and also conversation is easier if you’re not eating. Also you may not like each other and want to leave but feel like you have to stay until the end of the meal.
Don’t drink too much alcohol or arrive having already started drinking. It’s best to stick to one drink or if you’re not used to drinking alcohol stay on soft drinks.
Don’t talk too much – or too little. You need to show you are interested in someone so ask lots of questions but make sure you listen to the answers. Conversation should flow back and forward between you so try not make it like a job interview with a list of questions.
Don’t mention your ex’s, no matter how tempted you are. It might give the impression that you are not over them and not really ready for a new relationship.
Don’t be nasty or critical about the place you are in or other people around you. No one wants to spend time with a person who’s always moaning or criticizing everything.
Don’t say you won’t tell anyone that you met online – there is no stigma attached to online dating now.
Do make online dating a priority – the more time you give to it the more likely you are to be successful.
Do accept dates from people who appear initially to not be your type.
Do make your first message personal by mentioning a few things from the other person’s profile that made you want to get in touch.
Do actually date, don’t just message people, go to the next stage and actually meet up.
Don’t sit idle, actually send messages don’t wait for other people to show their interest.
Don’t respond to every email you receive unless you really want to but a simple “No thanks” if you’re not interested is polite and let’s someone know how you feel.
Don’t let a bad dating experience put you off. Unless you are very lucky and meet the right person straight away you can’t take it personally if someone doesn’t want to see you again. The idea of online dating is to meet up with a number of people.
After all the do’s and don’ts it’s important to remember to be yourself and have fun!